Cheetos and a soda for lunch. Yum!

During my younger years, I would eat Cheetos and a 20 oz. soda for lunch, half a dozen Krispy Kremes as a midnight snack, half a pint of Dreyer’s for a mid-noon snack, an entire Red Baron pizza for dinner, and the list goes on… This was prior to my Junior year in college, when my body could somehow inhale exorbitant amounts of junk food and continue to operate as if I was getting my recommended 5-daily fruits and veggies. I was Superman, I had practically no regard for health!

Then, one night I had trouble sleeping because I was having a hard time breathing. I forced myself to sleep through it, thinking it was just some random occurrence that would disappear the following day. I woke up, and the difficult breathing persisted. I went to the doctor, and I will never forget the words that came out his mouth; “Leland, you have Gastritis, and once you have it, you will have it for the rest of your life.” For those that don’t know, Gastritis is another way of saying GERD, or Gastroesophageal reflux disease, or Acid reflux. Symptoms usually include difficulty breathing and a sour taste in the mouth. My doctor couldn’t give me an answer for what could have caused this, but according to him and various other medical references, Acid reflux can result from drinking too much alcohol, fatty foods, acidic foods, and stress. Yep, all that delicious junk food I ate in the past definitely contributed to the problem in a big way.

I supposed you could look at that incident as a wake up call, since, from that day forward I made it a point to pay attention to my diet and health. I know I’m not the only one that had a disease happen as a result of less-than-stellar eating habits. Share your life stories, we would all love to hear them!

What makes you less attractive

When I start becoming needy and outcome dependent with the girl, always worrying that she will forget about me if I don’t ever call her. In reality, if she likes me, I’ll always be on her mind and she’ll feel the loss and urge to call me. Once again, using the dangling carrot analogy, when I become needy, I might as well be handing her the carrot on a silver platter. At the worst, I should give her a nibble or a bite, but never the entire thing!

What constitutes a nibble or a bite? A genuine compliment or sensual touching would be a nibble; think of it as rewarding her for being a wonderful girl. And if she’s really earned your interest, then you can give her a kiss or something more overt, which would be analogous to a bite. Never, at all costs, should you give her the entire carrot. This doesn’t mean to be a complete asshole and never handsomely reward her, but you should never let yourself go to the point where she absolutely has you. Once that happens, you have forfeited your manhood, and her interest in you will plateau. 

What makes you attractive

When I think back to my high school days, all kinds of girls fawned over me. Of course, my looks helped a bunch, but me being naturally aloof really made women attracted to me. I would talk to them a little bit here and there, but I always remained within an arms length away. Almost as if I was constantly dangling a carrot in front of their face with every single interaction. Granted, I never dated any of these girls, which was all completely my fault. I never let the girl even have a nibble of the carrot, and eventually they thought I wasn’t interested at all, even though in reality I actually wouldn’t have minded having them around for fun.

Keep upgrading yourself

It’s so easy to get complacent when you know a girl is interested in you. Stop letting go of yourself and continue moving forward in your life. She’s interested in you because you’re an interesting person. You have so much value to offer, and if you stop investing in yourself your value will no longer go up. Just like any business, you must constantly work on it to keep it fresh and profitable. 

You must be self-content in order to share happiness with others

If you are not content with your life, how do you expect a girl to jump into your life and be happy about it? You want to draw her into your amazing life, not detract from her life!